Wednesday, February 5, 2014

Learning to Love... Your Enough-ness!!!


Yes I know "enoughness" is not a word, but hopefully by the end of this post you will get where I am coming from.Clearly using the word enough is sufficient, however I'd like to emphasize the quality and state of being enough, ergo enoughness! My notion of "enoughness" comes from the perception that no matter what you are dealing with you are enough and have enough to meet the mark.
 I recently had a catch-up conversation with a girlfriend. You know how those go, you intend to call to say "Hey! How's it going? etc." You look up, it's now 3 hours later and you've completely missed your morning routine. The idea that you weren't productive sucks, yet the 3 hours of girlfriend gabbing  is always worth it. Especially when you hang up feeling charged and encouraged.

At one point during the conversation I became bothered. She began talking about how she felt she was being a good mother towards her children, wife to her husband, or even towards herself. I was upset because I know its not true. This wasn't the first time a mommy-wife friend expressed these type of feelings. I can relate being frustrated with myself at times because I felt I was missing the "mark" on my to-do list or in my life. Its funny, the mark we think we are missing is either an outside influence or some standard we've created in our mind. Don't get me wrong standards, boundaries, and goals are necessary and productive for getting us from one place to the next. However, when they are based on someone else's timeline, skills, education, background, education... journey you will fail before you even start.


This is where the idea of loving and owning your enoughness comes into play. You, we, me are enough to create and fulfill our own paths! 

Say this, "I am enough today, to be and to do ___________________________________________."

I know managing a home, a marriage, working, and raising children can be stressful because they are so valuable and deserving of our deepest attention. When we are succeeding at one we think we're failing at another. Not so. There is no one way to have a balanced life or no one way to be normal. But there is this moment to be present and completely aware of self. Accept all that you are and all that you want to be. That's your enoughness. Start life from a state of honesty, adequacy positivity, fullness. That's God, let Him in.


As a soon to be wife and mommy, I refuse to position myself from a place of inadequacy. Nope, uh huh, not gonna do it!!!! Does this mean I know what I'm doing? Nope! To be honest, I don't have a clue. This will be the first time I've ever lived with a man. As far as children are concerned, I've never even babysat. But what I do know for sure is "Because of God...I can. Because of God... I am enough!" Can I preach for a second? My Gods very being is a state of fullness and abundance. he lacks not one good thang! His love for me is steadfast. His mercy is everlasting. His grace is unmerited. This is my starting point, my launch pad if you will. How could I ever  feel like I am not enough, or to even be my complete self when I know what I know.


Truly the point of it all is to speak life over yourself. If somone gives you a compliment, accept it. If you're good or even great at something own that. Be kind to yourself and love who you are today.


Totally Obsessed, xoxo Love

Love Collins is a designer and owns Love Collins Custom Clothier a custom women's apparel studio, co-owner of The Pink Studs online jewelry boutique, and founded The Fashion Hoard a non-profit program that supports deserving young ladies fulfill their prom dreams. 

2 comments:

  1. We are our hardest critics. One needs to focus on the positive aspects in our lives and not the negative.

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    1. I'm with you sister!!! Its so true though, we just have to remind ourselves.

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